Why choose a Degreed Mediator?

Mediation is a field that is not yet regulated and therefore the standard of expertise and training for mediators is often hard to judge. Many mediators have had only a minimum amount (usually 40 hours) of “seminar” training. Others tack mediation onto another related practice as a sideline. A degreed mediator has the education, skill, experience, and training to realize that the mediation setting is neither a courtroom, nor a counselor’s office. It is unique, and when managed well, very effective.

Why should we opt for a Collaborative Divorce rather than regular divorce proceedings?

By avoiding court proceedings, your private documents and financial statements will not become public records. The entire process is designed to uphold your dignity by allowing a Mediator to facilitate a fair settlement through a series of meetings between the two parties and your lawyers. The primary focus is to identify the priorities, goals, needs and interests of the parties, and help them progress towards and create a settlement that is consistent with their priorities, goals, needs, and interests. The parties make your their own decisions based on their own standards. Most lawyers involved in the divorce process agree that the parties can often make better decisions about their children and their families than a judge.

If I already have a lawyer, why do I need a Mediator?

Mediators and attorneys are partners in the legal process. Regardless of the stage of a dispute–whether it’s already in litigation or not there yet–mediation can make a difference. Mediation provides:

1. A framework to negotiate. Most attorneys don’t have any real training in negotiation. Mediators are negotiation experts who understand how to turn the parties into more effective negotiators. They define your interests, aim to meet them, and maximize your gain–yours and the other side’s.

2. Focus and structure. Good mediators are skilled facilitators who run a mediation like an efficient business meeting. They have the ability to cut through the sparring, posturing, and argumentativeness to help parties get down to business. They push parties to develop an agenda, identify key interests, and create a realistic action plan which both can commit to and implement.

3. A dose of reality. One of the challenges attorneys can face is the client with unrealistic expectations about the value of their cases or the likelihood of success at trial. Mediation allows clients a first-hand glimpse into the strengths of the case of the opposing side or gives a preview of how sympathetic a plaintiff will be in court. The mediator brings to the negotiating table skill in reality testing along with the ability to guide parties through risk analysis–which can make settlement seem far more attractive than the alternatives away from the table.

4. Reality for the other side. Mediators of course will be asking the hard questions of all sides in a dispute, not just the one you happen to be on.

5. Overcoming barriers to agreement. Mediators are proactive in seeking out and addressing issues that are preventing the parties from reaching resolution.

6. Greater satisfaction. What’s not to like about a process that can save you time and money and enable you to walk away with a solution tailor-made to meet your interests?